Kim Kelley-Wagner has two daughters who were adopted from China. In everyday life, they have been subjected to horrid statements from people - to their faces, to their mother as they stood by her, etc. In this photo collection, shared on her blog, Kim and her daughters (Lily and Meika) put these ignorant cruelties front and center. [x]
"I have tried to explain to my daughters that people do not say these things to be mean, they say them out of ignorance, which is why I am sharing some of them. Words are powerful, they can become tools or weapons, choose to use them wisely."
I wish I could express my emotions in person. I usually can’t become expressively mad with people. I bottle every negative feeling I have inside me. I have never exploded (yet). Right now, I am particularly more angry than usual, and I just need to express myself somewhere.
- I’m angry at my dad. How could he not be looking after his health? Does he not care about his family anymore? He needs to stop pitying himself and stop thinking that “destiny will guide him.” He is not a helpless little baby. Grow up.
- I’m angry at mom (still). Although I have tried to forgive, I have never fully forgiven her for her walking out on this family multiple times. She would disappear for long periods of time, and my dad would gladly welcome her back. I would think she would at least realize how detrimental it is to her own children. I would think she would at least try to patch things up with me. But even if she did, I probably wouldn’t try. My dad keeps telling me “she’s not so bad; she doesn’t know how to express that she cares about you.” I don’t believe any of it, and I shut her out. Being a mom isn’t about being able to have kids; it’s about being able to raise them.
- I am angry at my boyfriend. He doesn’t understand how he hurts me when he does. He blames it on me and pities himself. He wants to feel right by making me feel lower. It’s too bad he bottles up his feelings too, and not many people know that we argue and fight more often than not.
- I am angry at myself. No matter how hard I try, I never feel like I can live up to my own expectations. I try not to mess up in anything I do, but there’s always something that I’ve done wrong. I beat myself up constantly. My academics, my apartment life, my sleep schedule, my family, my friends, my church, my work, my habits… I’m lacking in all those areas even when I keep trying my best to satisfy each one.
I continue to keep a smile on my face, but I won’t be able to really feel joy and peace until I know how to deal with these feelings and talk to people about them.
“How was your day?”
“Text me when you get home so I know you’re safe”
“How are you?”
“I hope you’re feeling better”
“Have a good day today!”
“I miss you”
“Can you come over?”
“Can I come over?”
“Can I see you?”
“Can I call you?”
“Want something to drink?”
“Watch your step”
“Let’s watch a movie”
“What are you up to?”
“How is your day so far?”
“It will be okay”
“I’m here for you”
“Do you need anything?”
“Are you hungry?”
“I just wanted to hear your voice”
“You just made my day”
You don’t have to hear “I Love You” to know that someone does. Listen carefully. People speak from the heart more often than you think.
|—||Blocklava (via blocklava)|
Bras we have known.
The last one is soo damn true
Hahaha I’m crying
lawd, lawd, lawd
Your Hands // JJ Heller
“When my world is shaking, heaven stands. When my heart is breaking, I never leave your hands.”
|—||William Chapman (via perfect)|
My mom and sister tricked my dad into going to the doctor today (haha). The doctor said he is at stage 3, and if he reaches stage 4, he will need a transplant which 1) is hard to find and 2) is difficult for the body to accept. We are hoping he will see a liver specialist soon so please keep praying that he will find one between Feb 24-28th. Autoimmune hepatitis is a somewhat rare non-curable condition where the body attacks its own liver; it can only be managed and kept under control..
1. I would really like to become an RA for next year, and I am a bit discouraged after meeting all the other RA applicants because they seem so much more experienced than I am. Please pray that I would be accepted; and if I do not get accepted, I want to still be joyful and thank God for the opportunity.
2. Most importantly, my dad has autoimmune hepatitis, and he was diagnosed with this two years ago. He has not sought out treatment since then and has been stubborn about seeing a doctor. I just saw him again this weekend, and it was shocking to see him in such bad shape. He is getting fevers and colds more often because his immune system has been acting strange, and he is much more fatigued. If this continues, he will need a liver transplant. I don’t want to see my father go yet. Please pray against his stubborn heart and for healing.The possible reality of him passing is hard for me to grasp and it’s just… hard to think he won’t be home.